Wednesday, April 26, 2023

Failure, persistance, growth

 SO......If you read my last post you would know that I haven't really acheived all of my goals....especially writing in here once a month.  But, we can always  change!  I believe in change.   I guess I need to specify a time that I will write so it doesn't get lost in my to do list.  Here's my goal recap:

1. Exercise.... well I'm still working on it.  I'm pretty good at getting 3 days of exercise and working to make better plans for the other 2 days.  My biggest struggle is that I don't really want to wake up early to do it, but just need to go there.  I have tried a couple of different gyms.  I love taking classes, but they are never when I want them to be.  I am currently at the south riding community center.  It's good, but i can't always make the times work.  Sometimes I just need to work out at home which is not my favorite, but I can do it.  Also need to let go of the dream that my whole family with want to go to the gym with me every day.  

2.  Eat healthy....what does that even mean?  uggh... I'll let that one sit for a moment as I sip my 3rd diet coke for today.

3.  Scriptures:  consistent with family scriptures...I think I'm consistent with personal, but really i need to work on it.... probably do it more like 4 days a week.  definetly room for improvement.  

4.  potty training....uggh.... still working on it.  he is good at peeing.  Poop. gross. don't know how we will get through this.  strangely, He does better when he's not at home.  He with holds a lot.  

5. Nathan:  so much progress.  He now has his license.  His eagle is almost done as in all he needs is to have his board of review.  Science project is done.  Got his wisdom teeth out this week.  He even agreed to go to Prom.  Excited for him. 

6.  Michelle driving....need to make her drive more

7.  Success!!  started tutoring English once a week at the library.  It makes me so happy.

8.  write down books check!  it's in the notes on my phone.  I've enjoyed reading book club books and a few more.

9.  working on staying connected with kids.  check 

10.  parents and siblings check

11.  Hobby time....sewing Nathan's quilt and some chair covers

12.  go to the temple. check!

13.  write in blog.  It's in the calendar now.

But seriously, aside from this super long list of goals, I think the thing I've been trying to learn the most from this year is to persevere.  This move has been hard.  Nathan especially has had a hard year finishing up all of his things for senior year and we've both felt a lot of loss for the experiences he's missed and the lack of acknowledgement for his successes.  But I can see a lot of growth in him.  He's had to advocate for himself a lot at school going to the counselors and talking about what he needs to graduate and checking up on requirements he needs to graduate.  He had to talk to adults a lot with his eagle project as well.  Also, he has been able to acknowledge that he is smart, and he did a great job at his science project.  He is learning how to advocate for himself and the beginning of that is believing in himself.  Even though I've complained a lot about his injustices in moving, and felt very victimized, I can tell that he has actually grown from his trials, and I am grateful that he's had this trial before he heads off to adulthood.  I'm glad he can learn how to advocate for himself before he leaves for school.  Hopefully it will help him as he heads off to college.  It's a tricky balance between acknowledging loss and trials, and staying positive.  Positivity really opens doors.  Being optimistic does help as we build for the future.  Above all I'm so proud of him for the progress he's made.